Without a doubt, that which we resist, persists; however, when we make friends with the massive uncertainty of today, it has less control over us, and we have more power in our lives.
In other words, to resist the space of, ‘I don’t know,’ is the opposite of embracing the uncertainty.
In general, we human beings are uncomfortable with uncertainty.
Naturally, our brains want to know what’s going to happen next.
However, when we don’t know, our typical default reaction is to resist the uncertainty.
Also, for most of us, uncertainty causes feelings of loss, sadness, and fear.
Unfortunately, when we push back on uncertainty, we push back on these feelings as well, which has them stick around longer.
In other words, feelings that are not embraced turn into enemies that have control over us, and zap our energy.
Any kind of resistance causes self-doubt; poisons our relationships; dilutes happiness, and kills productivity.
Clearly, primary sources of uncertainty today are:
- First, Covid 19
- Also, the economy
- Definitely, a super divisive political discourse
- Lastly, the future of our children’s education (and other industries).
In all of these areas of uncertainty, we have experienced loss, grief, sadness, fear, and other unwanted feelings.
And, when we don’t embrace all of it, we suffer even more.
Fortunately, there is a much easier and healthier way through, which is to embrace the uncertainty and make friends with your feelings.
Following are a few ways to make friends with uncertainty and embrace your feelings:
- First, acknowledge that today’s sources of uncertainty are real; that is, stop denying them and their impact on you.
- Second, express how you really feel in the face of this uncertainty.
- Then, make friends with these feelings, and let them come up; for example,
- Speak to them in friendly ways, like, “Hi, sadness. I know you. Come on in, and have a seat.
- Definitely, this seems weird and counterintuitive, but it works.
- Cry, yell, rage, etc. This is healthy. Don’t dwell here, but do let it all out.
- Speak to them in friendly ways, like, “Hi, sadness. I know you. Come on in, and have a seat.
- For more about making friends with unwanted feelings, click here.
Next, be part of the solution.
Without a doubt, it’s easy to complain. It’s easy to blame. It’s easy to wallow in despair.
On the other hand, it takes courage and creativity to act in positive ways that chip away at the problem.
For example. . .
- First, hold family venting sessions, so that everyone has an opportunity to embrace unwanted feelings.
- Also, get involved politically.
- Or, start exercising.
- Eat better.
- Get a therapist or a coach.
- Get in touch with your religion or spirituality.
- And, be creative: paint, draw, dance, compose, write, etc.
- Volunteer, or offer to help a friend in need.
- Post content on social media that will make a difference for people.
- Definitely, encourage the men and boys in your family to make friends with their feelings.
- Meditate.
- Also, connect with loved ones. Tell them who they are for you.
- Lastly, create a new source of income.
For ways to entertain yourself inside, please, click here.
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